The OP asked about the Anderson, which I use (see the beginning of the thread). I shared some of the plusses and minuses and when you suggested that the difficulties were a result of me just not doing it right I tried to explain that that's not the case. 

As I understand it, the Anderson is the lightest of them and, with practice, I've been able to learn to use it effectively though there are still aspects that are hard.

Thanks for trying to help, though. 

Which hitch are you using? It would be helpful for the rest of us to know.

Which hitch are you using? It would be helpful for the rest of us to know.

I was merely explaining why it's harder (for us little people) and OP's wife is reasonable to care about the choice. 

As always though, appreciate the helpful ideas.

It's completely doable but it is the hardest part for me but practice has helped a lot.

It worked great with the Equal-i-zer hitch. I gave it to my daughter when I gave her the hitch. I got another one to help with the Hensley Cub hitch, although it does not work quite so well because of the articulation which throws the balance off. However, it does work well enough to still be very useful.

The hitch comes with a lever bar to use to place the spring bars, but it is not really needed if you use your tongue jack properly.  

Carrying the hitch itself from my garage to the receiver on my SUV is an ordeal. It is heavy. Holding it exactly right to put it into the receiver is hard because it is heavy and I have to lean into an awkward position to see if it's lined up.  The plate and the chains are heavy. And every part of this definitely takes both of my hands. It's not always easy to get the plate holes and the hitch holes lined up to be able to easily get the pin inserted because I have to hold multiple things at once, each of which you might be able to easily hold with one hand but I cannot.

If you have an electric tongue jack, installing the WDH requires virtually no effort.

First, it's lighter than most. The hitch itself is still heavy and I don't put it in the receiver when there is someone else to do it...but I can. After that there really aren't tools involved and it's all pretty easy. A few things were done when it was first set up but don't have to be done every time (like positioning the brackets that hold the chains.  A few things I found difficult at first got easier with practice (like putting the plate in place is easier if you raise the lift and create play in the chains.

Happy to answer an specific questions you have.