I've never heard of this system. The only way I could see that the X3 could proportionally control the trailer brakes is by using accelerometer sensors already int he vehicle for the stability control system to use. Could they have coded the ECU to detect the accelerometer readings and how would the control the varying electrical signal to the trailer brakes? Sounds sketchy. I would get proof before trying to tow the R-Pod. If it doesn't active your trailer brakes at all, you will really put some wear on the X3 brakes. Not safe.
What is the max tow rating for the X3? Max tongue weight limit? I assume a V6 engine?
EDIT: Found 3000 pounds tow limit for the AWD version?
Thinking about it, if there is no trailer brake controller, what will control the trailer brake signal?? This sounds odd. I've seen 1650 lbs being the max trailer weight for un-braked trailers on many vehicles. Over 1650 lbs should have it's own braking system controller by a brake controller tied into the tow vehicle braking system.
Try www.bimmerfest.com forum to learn about your X3 capabilities, they will have more info than the R-Pod forum Good Luck.